When children fall out with each other and adults attempt to intervene, it is rarely long before one of the infants points towards the other and pipes up with the words, 'They started it!' At which point the accused party replies equally vehemently, 'No, I didn't. They did.' It is not just individual adults who are equally capable of sustaining a grudge in this way; nations do it too. The same syndrome lies at the heart of every war. But in your own life at least now, you have the power to bring true peace and reconciliation.